Die Magie der besonderen Verbindungen

Einen besonderen Draht haben

Gibt es Menschen auf dieser großen, weiten Welt, die einen besonderen Draht zu uns haben? So etwas wie Soulmates, Seelenverwandte? Ich glaube ja. Und du?

Entgegen der romantischen Annahme, es gebe nur einen einzigen Seelenverwandten, bin ich überzeugt: Es sind mehrere.

In den letzten Jahren habe ich auf verschiedenen Kontinenten gelebt und gearbeitet. Und immer wieder – selten, aber regelmäßig – ist es passiert: Ich treffe jemanden, und ohne rationale Erklärung passt einfach alles. Wir schwingen auf derselben Frequenz, sprechen dieselbe Sprache – oft ohne Worte. Wir lachen an der falschen Stelle und finden genau das witzig. Wir tun Dinge, die anderen seltsam erscheinen, uns aber völlig normal vorkommen. Wir teilen Werte, ohne sie jemals abgesprochen zu haben.

Doch das Faszinierende ist: Wir sind nicht gleich. Ganz im Gegenteil. Wir sind uns fremd genug, um uns herauszufordern, neugierig zu machen, wachsen zu lassen. Wir erweitern einander die Horizonte. Diese Verbindung ist irrational – fast verrückt.

Yuval Noah Harari würde jetzt vermutlich sagen: „Das ist nichts Mystisches, sondern ein evolutionärer Zufall. Eine komplexe neuronale Interaktion verstärkt durch geteilte soziale Prägungen.“ Möglich. Und doch fühlt es sich an wie mehr als das.

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Wir sind aus der Ewigkeit geboren und leben einen Wimpernschlag lang. Und da, mitten zwischen Geburt und Tod, begegnen wir einander. Genau in diesem Moment, an diesem Ort – wie ein neuer Stern ⭐️ am Nachthimmel. Die meisten dieser Sterne leuchten nur schwach. Doch einige? Einige erhellen den ganzen Himmel.

Manche von ihnen heiraten wir und verbinden uns für immer. Andere ziehen vorbei oder bleiben als treue Freunde, weise Mentoren oder verlässliche Kollegen. Doch eines haben sie gemeinsam: Sie prägen uns – und lassen uns nicht mehr los.

Ist es vielleicht Gott, der seine Menschen so in der Welt verstreut, dass sie sich genau dann begegnen, wenn es passt? Wenn alles stimmt – dann funkt es. Dann erfasst uns diese tiefe, allumfassende Liebe, von der die Bibel spricht.

Diese Menschen können aus Asien oder Lateinamerika kommen, aus Berlin-Mitte oder Wolkendorf bei Kronstadt. Sie können älter oder jünger sein, Mann oder Frau. Wenn es passiert, sollten wir die Frequenz hochdrehen, staunen und genießen. Ein neuer Stern an unserem Himmel – er wird dort leuchten. Vielleicht für Jahrzehnte.

Und auch wenn der Alltag uns wieder einholt, wenn das Licht des Morgens die Sterne verblassen lässt – wir wissen: Sie sind da. Ihre Erinnerung bleibt in unserer Seele.

Was für eine wunderbare Perspektive, um offen und empfangend in diese große, weite Welt hinauszugehen!

Und falls du dich jetzt fragst, ob du vielleicht einer dieser Menschen bist, die auf meiner Frequenz senden… 🤔 Die Antwort kennst du doch. 👋

Being Alive by Stephen Sondheim sang by Adam Driver

[AMY, spoken]
Blow out the candles, Robert, and make a wish.
*Want* something! Want something!
[ROBERT]

Somebody hold me too close
Somebody hurt me too deep
Somebody sit in my chair
And ruin my sleep
And make me aware
Of being alive, being alive

Somebody need me too much
Somebody know me too well
Somebody pull me up short
And put me through hell
And give me support
For being alive

Make me alive,
make me alive

Make me confused, mock me with praise
Let me be used, vary my days

But alone is alone, not alive!

Somebody crowd me with love
Somebody force me to care
Somebody make me come through
I'll always be there
As frightened as you
To help us survive

Being alive,
being alive,
being alive,
being alive sang by Adam Driver 
in the movie a marriage story which is actually
a part from a musical called "the company"
which appeared in the 1970s 
and the main character there
 robert celebrates his 35th birthday 
and he faces the prospect
of spending the rest of his life alone

now he's invited to blow out the candles
and I find this part very important
that's why I start with it
and make a wish as he
meditates on five relationships of his friends

i remembered this poem
 it speaks to me
of course about my experience 
in my relationship 
it's about the love inrelationship
and the challenges
individuals have
being together

i very much
recognize my experience with my wife in in this poem
but more than that it speaks to me also
about other relationships i experience
for example the relationship with my my children

 children who sometimes
they make me make me feel angry they
it feels like they put you through
hell
but what they actually do is 
they make you
feel alive
feel something
now you know
why you are there what you have to do
why you care
and when when that's lost
then we re-experience this feeling
we have other times in life when  nothing matters
we are alone and loneliness makes us feel nothing
want nothing 

the last verse
is important somebody 
crowd me with love
crowd me with love and and not only that
and force me to care
we need it 
we so often feel like we just
can't give up 
you know we give up our relationships 
that's why i hear it also
as a poem for friendships
friendship where someone forces you to
not give up 
to just say bye i don't want to talk with you anymore 
but force you to care force you care 
with the love they share with you 
they crowd you with
because then
we experience the
the joining in together
on this journey
through loneliness and life
and the experience that we want to
be
to be there to share life 
to survive life 

now last thought is the introduction
the introduction 
want something 
and wanting something
comes with the experience of
of having a loving relationship 
with your partner 
with your family
or with friends 
because otherwise 
in our loneliness 
we don't want anything anymore 
we have the experience and the feeling
it's done
 i'm finished
what do you want?
what do you actually want?
 what's meaningful to you? 
fill the void of loneliness with meaningless things you buy
with holidays you do
because
you don't actually want anything else than
being loved
not being alone
and not being alone the poem says is
being alive 


and live
be alive and want something

no leaders, please by Charles Bukowski

invent yourself and then reinvent yourself,
don’t swim in the same slough.
invent yourself and then reinvent yourself
and
stay out of the clutches of mediocrity.

invent yourself and then reinvent yourself,
change your tone and shape so often that they can
never
categorize you.

reinvigorate yourself and
accept what is
but only on the terms that you have invented
and reinvented.

be self-taught.

and reinvent your life because you must;
it is your life and
its history
and the present
belong only to
you.

~Charles Bukowski, from The Pleasures of the Damned 

this poem from Charles Bukowski

speaks to me in a very encouraging way

and

it gives us right away two questions to

ask :

is that possible to reinvent ourselves?

and

i have two thoughts on this

number one:

think about your career

in our day and age in the 21st century

it’s certain that you will reinvent

yourself

career-wise

you have to do it

the times are past

where you learned something and then you

worked

until you retire just in that field

no

you have to reinvent yourself

or you have to start over and go a different path

take on a different role

however, you will need to do it

and the other idea is for you personally

about your personality

and that’s debatable.

I know some of you will say

I am who I am that’s not changing

but

on the other hand

we humans are storytelling machines

reinventing ourselves on a daily basis

retelling the story of who we are and

what matters to us

depending on the experiences and the situations we are in

we retell the story of who we are.

it would be so comfortable to just stay where I am

and

swim in the same slough that I know and

that’s not a refreshing cold nice

water

no

it’s the same slough

it’s like the

mediocre things I love to do

how easy would it be

change your tone and shape as often so

that they cannot categorize you because

that’s what people do

they

give us labels

without question

learning a new instrument

or taking on a new sport

or just training

is contributing to changing

our shape

who we are and what people thinkabout us that we are

reinvigorate yourself and accept what is

that’s hard

but it’s a good reminder

because there are things about us

about myself and about my situations

from where i’m starting perhaps indeed

there are circumstances i can’t change i

have no power over them

so accept what is

but also with the addition and only on

the terms that you invented and then

reinvented so even that is something you

can work on

work on them

be self-taught

yes

yes

continuously

learn new things and then at the end he

says reinvent your life because you must

that’s such a

clear statement you have to you have to

perhaps it’s connected to the leader to

the title there because otherwise people

will do it for you people

will take on that role those leaders how

easy it is to just be told who you are

and what you need to do some people find

comfort in that

just just accepting just saying yes

that’s me that’s who i am

but but you you can work it’s your life

and it’s present and it’s past it

belongs only to you not to someone else

to tell you

who you are and how you

should live your life and how you should

re inventing it it’s your life

it’s a powerful reminder it is

your